THIS WEEK’S FOCUS:
Do yourself a favour: don’t choose to be emotionally unintelligent!
It must be a sign of the times. Recently, quite a few clients have felt so overwhelmed by frustration and anger when dealing with their people, or their global stakeholders that they have often just lost it. Don’t get me wrong, they don’t have anger management problems – in fact, haven’t we all been there sometime or other.
What I have noticed is that when we are triggered, there is a moment where we give ourselves permission to let go. We say something like “Stuff this!” What my clients have found over the years, is that if we know we give ourselves permission, that is that the other person can’t “make us angry” (because at some point we choose this route), then we can decide not to give ourselves permission to lose it, to do something emotionally unintelligent. After all, who wants to be emotionally unintelligent when they can choose to be emotionally intelligent, right?
So, try it. Try choosing the emotionally intelligent option in the moment. You’ll find it easier than you think! And incredibly self-empowering!
Monday Morning Perspective: “You will become as small as your controlling desire; as great as your dominant aspiration.” – James Allen